Have you been feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, unsatisfied, complacent, unhappy, and even angry with your life?
Well, you’re not alone, because millions of people wake up every day and share those same emotions.
Once you fall into that hole of life-sucking emotions, it can be rather difficult to crawl out of it.
We know that it can seem impossible, but if you want to change the trajectory of your life, you must be proactive by creating a strategy and take action in order to climb out of that hole.
You know that this negative outlook on life makes it harder for you to manage your challenges and move forward.
We’ve provided 10 simple ways that you can begin your journey towards taking control over your life so that you can spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. They will help you focus on your strengths and accomplishments, which can increase your happiness and motivation.
Let’s dive in…
WAY #1: Take Good Care Of Yourself
It's much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. It’s difficult to take control of your life when you’re plagued with illnesses, lack of energy, and being unhealthy.
WAY #2: Remind Yourself Of the Things You Are Grateful For
Stresses and challenges don't seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in your life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference. We suggest that you create a simple morning ritual, where you combine exercise, visualization, and being grateful.
WAY #3: Look For The Proof Instead Of Making Assumptions
A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not based in reality. For example; If you have a fear that a friend or family member's bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them.
Don't waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about. Remember, what you feel and think is your reality, whether real or imagined.
WAY #4: Refrain From Using Absolutes
Have you ever told someone "You're ALWAYS late!" or complained to a friend "You NEVER call me!"? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like 'always' and 'never' makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering. Remember, try your best to base your life on reality and not a story that you’ve created in your mind that isn’t real, because you may feel foolish when you find out the truth of the matter.
WAY #5: Detach From Negative Thoughts
Your thoughts can't hold any power over you if you don't judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don't follow it. The question that you want to ask yourself is, “What’s causing me to have these negative thoughts?” You always want to try and identify the root cause so that you can work to resolve any deep-rooted issues you may be suffering from and may not even be aware of it.
WAY #6: Squash The "ANTs"
In his book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life," Dr. Daniel Amen talks about "ANTs" - Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like "Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me," or "The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!" When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and to just go ahead and squash them! You must train your mind to avoid automatically defaulting to the negative, because often times the situation is not as bad as you’ve made it out to be in your brain.
WAY #7: Express Your Love For Your Family And Friends
You’ve probably heard the saying, “If You Want Love, You Must Show Love!” This is a very true statement that validates the law of attraction… Meaning that often times you get back the same energy that you put out. There’s nothing wrong with expressing your love for your family and friends. Try this little experiment for at least a week. Choose a family member or friend that you really care about, but normally don’t tell that person you love them. Then simply tell them that you love them in your own words based upon your own personality and the way you normally communicate with them, so that it doesn’t seem awkward.
The first time that you tell the person you love them, he or she may be shocked, but that’s okay as they will reply and tell you that they love you as well. Do this for at least 7 days and watch how the bond between you and that family member or friend strengthens.
If you’re fortunate to see them in person, that’s even better because you could add a hug to the mix.
Just give this little experiment a try and watch it work wonders for building stronger bonds and relationships with those you care about.
WAY #8: Increase Your Social Activity
By increasing your social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way! Remember, that you become the company that you keep.
WAY #9: Volunteer For An Organization
Help another person, because your contribution will make you feel great. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.
WAY #10: Use Pattern Interrupts To Combat Rumination
If you find yourself ruminating about a negative thought, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Reflecting on those negative thoughts for too long is never productive, because it's not rational or solution-oriented, it's just excessive worrying. Try changing your physical environment, go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.
The key is to do something that shifts your focus away from the negative thought to a positive one.
Rumination Defined: A deep or considered thought about something.
Wow! You just learned 10 Ways To Take Control Of Your Life in which you could begin implementing today.
Life is a mind game and you want to master the control of it in order to get what you strive for out of it.
Whether you think you can or can’t is totally up to you, and the best way to increase your chances of attracting all of the things you want is by taking control over your life by changing your thought process.
This process is called Self-Development or Self-Improvement, in which you methodically work on improving the most important areas of your life, such as Health, Wealth, Family, Happiness, and so on.
These major areas of your life can’t be left up to chance, you must put together a plan designed to improve them, and you must consistently take action on the processes to get your desired results.
The fastest way to improve each area of your life is to model the success of others whom have already mastered it.
Your life is valuable, so get started today!