Raising children can be extremely challenging in this day and age, but it can also be rewarding. Sheltering kids from the real world tends to set them up for failure; because once they get out on their own, they’ll get a reality check. When it comes to parenting there are solid fundamentals that have stood the test of time.
As a parent, we know that you’ll do your best to impart all of your wisdom onto your kids.
After they reach a certain age, you’ll have to hope and pray that they take the advice you’ve given them and apply to their life situations.
Make it clear that you’ll always be there to provide them guidance and that your door is always open no matter what.
Parenting for the most part comes natural, but there’s nothing wrong with being humble by learning new techniques that can enhance your skills.
In life, you’re either growing or dying and learning new parenting skills is no different.
The key is to adopt and implement the parenting techniques that resonate with you and ignore the rest…
Simply because you’re not going to agree with every parenting method you come across.
Today you’re going discover the Secrets To Raising Children in which you can begin using immediately…
Chapter 1: Preparing Your Kids For Education
Do you want to raise your kids to become geniuses? By preparing them for early education, you are giving them a chance to have a better life. In 80% of people who have higher IQ's, will graduate high school and move on to college. This will allow them to earn more in their lifetime.
You'll want to prepare them for kindergarten before they go so that way everything is just a review to them. They will stay ahead of the class and be able to learn new material, giving them an advantage compared to the other kids.
Most parents don't have a lot of time to educate their children and to create the core skills that are needed in the real world. Even if you don't have time, there are ways of getting around this dilemma. For example, you can pick up a few fun learning materials that they will play with on their own.
With our technology today, they’re perfectly capable of learning on their own. Also, by doing small things such as reading to them, you will prepare them for a brighter future. Why not go over the words with them or point to unfamiliar objects and have them sound it out.
You'd be surprised with what they can learn.
It is important that you stay calm with them while teaching. This experience should be fun for them, so don't let it seem like work. If they don't understand something, you can move onto the next subject. Toddlers or kids will easily become bored with the same topics due to their short attention spans.
Some parents will raise their voice when teaching a child and we suggest that you don't do this. You should never become frustrated (or at least not show it) if they’ll struggling to learn something. Instead, take your time and go a different route by trying a different approach.
Toddlers and kids are extremely sensitive and this is why you should always have patience with them.
Once your child goes to their first day of kindergarten, you won't have to worry about them falling behind. They will be ready to conquer the world and the teacher will be impressed with what they can do.
By making educational choices for your children, you can leave a good impression as a parent. Generally, kids who are educationally inclined will have an easier time socializing and communicating with other kids. This means that they'll be able to make a few good friends and won't be lonely in their class. For most parents, this is very important. Life is all about communicating and getting along with others.
Chapter 2: The Basics of Raising Kids
Raising kids isn’t just all about fun and games. You must teach them manners, discipline and respect as well. Some kids don't want to learn these things, but in order to be a good parent; you should teach them everything they need to know about life.
You’ll get the best results when you start teaching your children at a young age, preferable when they are toddlers.
Obviously, you aren't going to jump ahead 4 grades and start teaching them advanced math. Their brain is still developing and they are still learning speech plus basic movement skills. With this in mind, you'll need to raise your kids by giving them simple activities that have to do with colors, hand-eye coordination, and memorization. These are the most basic skills a child will need in life. By dealing with these skills first, they'll be confident to learn a lot more.
Also, it’s a fact that some children learn faster than others, so be certain to closely monitor their progress. This will prevent you from using a one-size fits all approach, in which you could unknowingly hold them back.
If you see that they’re progressing fast, encourage them to advance and provide the necessary tools to make it happen.
Behind The Scenes
If your child shows signs of rebellion towards learning, you’ll need to get to the bottom ASAP!
You can try various ways to motivate them that aren’t frustrating.
What is it that your child enjoys? What activities do your child like? What are some material items your kid has shown an interest in (e.g. Toys, Electronics, etc.)? Does your child have favorite foods, beverages, and snacks?
You can use any of their favorites and wants as rewards to motivate them to learn and when they complete tasks.
When you approach learning in this manner, your child will see education as a fun game instead of work.
TIP:Limit the amount of processed sugary snacks that you reward you child with. We recommend giving them tasty healthy snacks instead, such as sweet fruits.
When it comes to raising kids, you should always organize their daily schedule. For example; you should wake them up at the same time to eat breakfast, start their toddler lessons at the same time every day. The reason why you want to do this is so that they can get used to a schedule. If you jumble everything up, they may not be in the mood to learn.
Believe it or not, some toddlers develop a sense of time. If they normally eat and then study afterwards, they will be prepared for it.
Also, this will allow you to relax and stop worrying about if they will take part in your lessons or not. Most likely they won't say no since they already know the time has come to learn. Eventually, they will accept it as an everyday part of life. This is exactly what we want them to think and the technique works extremely well with kids.
This daily conditioning will make both you and your child’s life so much easier.
Chapter 3: The Characteristics Of A Genius
A genius is someone who is smart, logical, observes what's going on around them, and is a problem solver. If you want them to become a genius, it will take some hard work.
However, this doesn't mean you need to take two hours out of your day to teach your children. A brief lesson is fine and would be better due to children’s short attention span.
You don't want to drag the lesson on for so long that they eventually lose interest and not want to participate anymore. A lesson should last for approximately 10-30 minutes only, depending on how young they are. If you want your kid to become a genius, you'll need to pay attention to their progress.
Here are a few characteristics of a genius below:
Someone who is a genius is logical and can put two things together, and come to a conclusion. Let's say you have learning cards for your child. There are four learning cards and they must find out which object doesn't belong. On the cards, there are three different types of birds and one car on one of the cards. Obviously, a kid who thinks in a logical manner will choose the car because it looks nothing like the birds.
If your child is observing, you will notice that they tend to respond to sounds and visuals around them. See how many times you have to call your child before they come to you. If it takes them five minutes before they show up, you should work on getting them to respond ASAP. Give them a reward when they come in a timely fashion. This will help with the situation. Look closely to see if your child responds to sounds or visuals more. If they seem to gravitate to visuals more often, this is an indication that they are a visual learner. Quite often, visual learners become artists later on in life, but there are other professions as well.
A child who is smart will begin to talk at an early age and even give objects the proper nouns. If you have a younger toddler who is still grasping the name of certain items - you should help them out. Point to each item and tell them what it is. Only do this with three items at a time so this way it sticks in their brain.
Learning too much too soon can make the child feel overwhelmed and confused. This can also lead them to get the words confused as well. This could have an adverse effect on their learning activities. Children that are able to retain certain information are naturally smart and by taking advantage of this, they could go a long way. Make sure you work with their strengths and also help them with things they are having trouble with. They will thank you later in life for being such a great parent.
Chapter 4: How To Transform Your Kids Into Geniuses
In order to transform your kids into geniuses, you will need to come up with a plan of action. Make a list of all the materials you’ll need to teach your child Einstein.
It is important to see if they are a visual or hands-on learner first. This way you can give tailor your teachings based upon which one they are.
This will teach your child to play to their strengths.
You want the process to be easy for them; otherwise they may not be as excited about learning.
If you don’t teach your child based upon what type of learner they are, they may struggle, get frustrated, and completely shut down.
Games are a great way to start out. If your child is very young, why not start a ball game?
For example; you could tape two symbols on the ball. You can tape a butterfly and a dog on the ball. Ask them to pass you the ball that has the dog. Do this a few times so this way they will be able to learn identification skills as well as their nouns.
Also, it is a good idea to visit a store in your area and find some toys for learning. Make sure the toys are safe and are age appropriate. If you have a two year old, you certainly don't need to be teaching them things that a 6 year old would know, unless they’re advanced.
Remember what we said earlier about monitoring your child’s progress and not holding them back by using a one-size fits all approach if they’re naturally advancing rapidly?
There are many games to come up with and purchase. Learning stores have mini computer games, word games, symbol games, geometrical games and so on. Feel free to give them a choice of which game they want. Of course, if your child is really young, you'll need to choose for them.
Purchase technology that makes a difference
What we mean by this is that you should purchase technology that teaches them speech and typing. This might be a big step for them and you could wait until they are a little older, or start now.
For example, you purchase a piano that has picture based keys.
The piano will ask them where the certain animals on the keys are. If they get it right, a happy song is played. If it's wrong, the answer is revealed.
Besides a piano, you could go for a high tech kid's computer that pronounces new words and even allows them to type the word. They can find the letter on the keyboard and develop typing skills right away. Before you know it, they will be ahead of their class.
We recommend that you visit some of the big Education Stores and browse their selection; you’ll be in them for hours, because they have hundreds of cool items that could help make your children geniuses.
Make daily activities an everyday learning process
Even when the daily education session is over and lunch has begun, you can still continue teaching your children. Ask them what kind of cereal they are eating, the color of the cereal or the name of the utensils they are using. If they are very young and cannot tell you everything, just repeat it.
While repeating the answer, hold up the object that you are talking about. Make it fun for them and stick to the same subject each week. The reason why we say for a week is so they can retain the information. You can switch it up the next week and do learning with a different daily activity.
Chapter 5: The Soft Skills Required For Good Parenting
Good parenting begins with gentle discipline, patience, understanding, comforting and love.
If you give your child everything they need, in a balanced fashion they will look back on their past and won't have any negative feelings or memories. Unfortunately, many children miss out on a few of those elements while growing up.
Either the parent is too soft to show them what the rules are, or they simply feel they can't show their love. For example; a father always brings his son to baseball practice but he never tells him he does a good job. Instead, he constantly yells at him and tells him he could have done better. His son grows up, deprived of love and understanding.
This is because he was so young that he did not understand his father's reasoning. Men will often show their love in a different way and some kids do not understand this which transforms into anger or sadness once they look back on their past.
By nature, men feel that showing love is a sign of weakness and oftentimes will cry in private when sad.
What about a mother who always gives her child love? She is extremely soft-hearted and will practically give anything her child wants. Her goal is to make life easier for her child, but in reality, this can backfire later down the road. Children need to know that you typically have to work hard to obtain things in life. There is a difference when it comes to balancing everything out. If your child is not learning discipline, you could be setting them up for failure in life. They may continue not to follow rules and later could rebel in social situations or the work place. Instead, it is a good idea to create a balance between everything.
With balance, you are considering all of the soft skills for good parenting. If you don't balance everything out, your son or daughter may focus on a single goal in life. They won't be good with other things. For example; what if your child only plays basketball and neglects their school work? This can be extremely devastating if one day your child breaks their leg during a game.
There is a good chance that they won't be able to play again. Make sure that they are good at many different things. By doing this, you are giving them lots of options in their life.
When they are older, they can become a graphic artist, an architect planner, or even a business owner. There are so many options available and you need to work with what they are good at, while still strengthen the skills they need help with. Many parents don't realize they are making this mistake by doing this early; your child will blossom in life.
Big Takeaway: Focus on your child’s strengths and ONLY work on necessary weaknesses. Otherwise they’ll end up with several strong weaknesses. If you go this route, this will be the beginning of becoming a “Jack Of All Trades, And Master Of None!”
Comforting and understanding come hand in hand for most parents. For example; if your daughter is having a hard time making friends in her second grade class, you'll instinctively want to comfort her. Every parent should do this. If you don't give your children comforting, they will become lonely and even upset.
A sense of hopelessness will come over them and they'll wish you paid more attention. Even if you have never gone through the same situation they are in, it is still a good idea to comfort them.
Let your children know that everything is going to be okay and no matter what, you will always be there for them. They will look up to you and come running when they are faced with a troublesome situation.
Infants should be treated with the same soft skills as we mentioned here. If your baby is still learning how to walk or hasn't yet begun to crawl, you need to show them love whenever possible. The human mind is very strong and some kids can even remember things from back to when they were five months old even if it was just a blurry memory.
Chapter 6: The Hard Skills For Parenting
Hard skills for parenting are very important for your child, especially in their younger years.
Hard skills include being strict, tough love, and self-soothing. No parent wants to feel like the bad guy in the relationship and this is why we tend to be less strict these days. It certainly isn't like the way it was 60 years ago, when children were often hit and scolded for doing small things that we consider "innocent" today. However, you will need to work on a few hard skills for parenting if you want your child to become strong.
If you don't want to be the one who seems like the bad guy, why not share the hard skills with your significant other? A lot of the time, when the father is too lenient and the mother is too strict, the child will come running to the father. Since the mother says no most of the time, the father may argue with her and this will cause problems in the relationship. Also, this shows the child that whatever they do is okay.
They become confused since one parent allows them to do something while the other does not. Speak with your significant other and make the decisions together in order to avoid any confusion. Undermining can destroy a couple’s relationship, so please do not work against each other when it comes to parenting.
Do not be an enabler and allow your children to do whatever they want. If you have a nine month old baby and they often cry to get what they want, you might go running to soothe them. Eventually they will need to learn to talk instead of focusing on crying. This is why we invented something called "self-soothing". Instead of always comforting your child, you'll need to let them have some time on their own.
If you've tried everything and they've been crying for hours, you need to put them down in their crib. Before you do this, make sure there is nothing going on with them medically.
Once you set them down, close the door and let them cry. It might be heart wrenching for you to hear them cry but soon they will need to know that crying will not always receive a response. You will start to see them crying less and while you give them speech lessons, they will begin to rely on this for communication.
Kids are smart even at a young age, because they’ll try to manipulate you to get what they want by using crying as leverage. They may not be able to talk, but they sure understand how to get their way when they notice how you give in when they cry. Most of us are big softies when it comes to our children, just admit it!
NOTE:We want to stress that you must confirm 100% that there’s nothing medically wrong with your child in order to avoid a tragic situation.
Here’s another example; let’s say you have your three year old who is constantly running around the house and always says "no" to you. This is a normal stage in life and many kids go through this. They think that by saying "no", they will not have to do things like eating vegetables, taking their bath, etc.
You'll need to show them tough love at this point. This means if they push their food away and don't want to eat, just let it be. If they see someone in the family eating cookies and want some, tell them calmly that they will need to eat the rest of their dinner first.
By not making a big deal out of it, your child won't feel as if they are pressured into doing things they don't want to. Put out the dinner you saved in front of them. If they eat it, go ahead and reward them with a snack. This is a great way of being firm and still being able to give them what they want. Eventually they will conform.
Chapter 7: The Places To Find Information For Good Parenting
Obtaining information on good parenting can be tedious, considering there is so much written material out there. Before you start reading books, why not talk with another parent? This is recommended if you recently had your first child. Most parents know tricks on how to raise children, especially those who have two or more kids.
They might even recommend reading a book that helped them begin when they were new at parenting. Recommendations are wonderful because what worked for them has the possibility of working for you.
Now, if you want to find information for good parenting, e-books, electronic guides, and audio books are great resources. All of the information is compiled in one place and you can skip to a certain chapter by clicking the link on your computer or mobile device. Mobile devices allow you to listen or read parenting content from anywhere.
Hate waiting for those boring office meetings? Read a page where you last left off at. This is one reason why we love today's technology. You no longer have to visit the library to check out books. Everything is right there for you, accessible in the palm of your hand.
If you are a regular at the library, you will find tons of content on how you can help your child become smarter then everyone in the class. If you take so much time out of your day to help them in education, you will succeed when it comes to your child's learning abilities. It just takes plenty of patience and devotion.
Remember that if you are looking for something specific, you'll need to do a search on it. Use your search query online. If your baby has been crying for hours and you just don't know what to do, you can read up on skills to comfort your little one. Remember, you must confirm whether or not your child’s crying is the result of a medical issue. Never assume, because that could have tragic consequences.
Learning new parenting skills is easy and with so much information out there, you can practically find anything. However, if you are having trouble deciding on what products to get, you need to identify what your needs are. See if you can read the tables of contents before you purchase any e-book or audio-book. This will give you an idea of what the book is all about and that way you won't buy something that already contains information you know about.
Some books contain excerpts which highlight the main points. This is useful to read, especially if you've never bought from the author before and don't know what to expect. Once you find valuable information that you need, be sure to write everything down.
Make notes of what you are reading so that way you will remember it when the time comes. Your child may not be learning speech now, but when they do, you can teach them that nifty memorization trick for pronouncing tricky words.
Chapter 8: The Benefits Of Good Parenting
Good parenting can help your child grow into a confident, happy, and smart individual who knows what they want in life. Even the little things you teach them can make a strong impact. You may just want to keep your child all to yourself and never let them grow up, but they'll soon need to live their own life.
Letting your son or daughter go can be a tearful moment for many parents, but you need to realize that all the things you have taught them in life will just make the process smoother for them.
If you have taken your time to get them ahead of all the other kids in school, there is a good chance they will excel in college at an early age. Once they complete college, they will be able to start looking for work or start their own business, and have a fulfilling life.
Here are some benefits of good parenting:
By communicating daily with your child and praising them on the good things they do, you are building their confidence. Parents who tend to scream at their child for everything that they do wrong will lower their self-esteem, causing the opposite effect. Stay calm even when they are behaving at their worst.
If your child happens to draw on the wall, look at them with a nod of disapproval and say "No". Explain to them that this is not right. Tell them that you won't be giving them dessert because they did this. What this does is create the same response to what they did, without harsh scolding. They will become a mentally healthy and confident person.
Did you know that happiness is strongly linked with laughter? Doing little things like tickling your child, giving them playful kisses, or even watching cartoons with them will create a happy environment. They will tend to focus on positive results instead of the negative things in life, making them happy. Try to make your child laugh a few times a day, even if they are acting up. If you are too stressed or just not in the mood do something that will cheer you both up.
In order to surround your child with a peaceful setting, you need to create harmony. You can do this just by softening your tone and staying calm with them at all times. If there is someone who constantly yells in the house and has a lot of anger, you need to take them away from this environment (we know that this maybe easier said than done).
An environment that is peaceful will allow your child to be happy and they won't be afraid to be themselves. If you think that your child is being abused by someone get to the bottom of it right away! It can easily scar them in the future and cause anxiety.
You may have to file an investigative report but think of it this way, your child is worth it. They are the one you will be with for the next 18 years of your life. After this, they'll most likely move on and start a life on their own. Don't worry though, they'll still need you and look at your as their dear mother or father.
Your job is only to give them the best in life and teach them right from wrong. By doing this, you will allow them to grow and they'll be much happier in their life. There is nothing better than seeing a bubbly child in your life that runs around with a smile on their face.
Chapter 9: The A to Z of Parenting, Tips and Secrets
Appreciating some of the things that your child does is a great way to show them you care and that you are proud of them. A child needs to be acknowledged when it comes to them engaging in positive tasks. For example; if they drag your purse along the floor, getting it dirty while bringing it to you, just say "thank you" and give them a hug. Don't scold them for getting it dirty. They are too young to understand anyway and thought they were doing a good thing.
When your child needs comforting, they may feel scared, sad, lonely or uncertain. For example; let’s say that it is pouring rain at 2A.M and you could hear thunder shaking the house. Your little one screams and you come running to rescue them. They are sitting up, crying and not able to sleep because of the noise. Don't just order them to go to bed. Pat your child on the head and tell them a bed time story. Also explain that they shouldn't be afraid of thunder. In time, your child will become calm and begin to fall asleep.
For the little time you do have, be sure to devote it to your son or daughter. Missing them grow up might make you regret working so much and you'll spend days wondering why the time passed so quickly. This feeling of guilt and sadness will eat you alive for the rest of your life.
Time is the most valuable expiring asset that cannot be bought at any price.
If you have a young son who feels like no one understands him, you need to take your time to figure out what he is going through. If you are going through a divorce with your husband and he is always crying for his father to come home, this will definitely be a difficult experience. Instead of getting upset and telling him to stop crying, try to explain everything to him in a sweet way. Let your six year old son know that sometimes grownups don't always stay together but that doesn't mean he won't get to see his father. Cuddle him and tell him a comforting story to calm him down. He'll soon understand as he gets older.
Guiding your child through their educational journey is important, especially if you plan on home schooling them. Also, guiding can also be for basic things such as teaching your child how to eat, say his or her name, and interact with others. Always show them how to do it the right way.
Every child needs to be nurtured. When they become upset or are struggling in a certain situation, hold them close and let your child know everything will be alright. They are constantly looking up to you and see you as a role-model. By nurturing your little one, they will have less anxiety and more certainty in their future.
The Secrets To Raising Children is your springboard to becoming and extraordinary parent.
If you only focus on one aspect, you won't be balancing everything out. Your child needs balance in order to become a little genius.
Understand that your child will need to learn the core building blocks of life. If your child is a rebel and likes to say no all the time, you will need to be strict on the rules. However, do not hover around them all the time, this is known as being a “Helicopter Parent.” Just keep an eye on them and make sure you correct them if they do something wrong.
Another strategy that can help you become a strong parent is giving your child a head start in life. You want them to be able to do things on their own, so why not teach them at an early age? Instead of potty training them at age 3, go for age 2 instead. You will be glad you did. You won't have them relying on you all the time for small things that they can do on their own.
Allow your child to learn new materials each day. Don't just stick to one lesson all the time. Why not read them stories online or buy them a new learning game? They'll be excited and want to play it right away. They may even disregard their other learning toys and pay attention to the new one. You'll want to expand their minds and teach them something new every day. This is what draws curiosity for children; they’ll naturally want to learn more.
Don't be afraid to tell your child no. Letting them get away with everything can really make them act out in school, at home, and in public. You don't want your kid to become one of those kids in the classrooms who are hard to control. They may even have problems with teachers later in their life.
Be firm with them, but be sure not to order your kid around or they will most likely act out. If they are doing something wrong, try giving them a time out. A spanking or any form of abuse is frowned upon in this day and age. It also can dramatically damage a child and they'll remember it while growing up. Most children don't understand right from wrong, so you need to be easy on them but always remind them of the right thing to do.
You should tell your children the truth about the world and how it works. Sheltering your children will only set them up to be taken advantage of by the unethical people on this planet.
The more your children know, the better off they’ll be while navigating the treacherous waters of this world.
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