Are you having a difficult time coming to grips with the reality of knowing the best course of action is to end the relationship with your significant other?
Breakups can be difficult to initiate because of the time and energy invested in each other.
You may not necessarily want to let go or have conflicting feelings that send you on a rollercoaster ride of emotions.
Most likely you’ve gotten attached to your mate, and there is a comfort zone in staying together.
Parting ways with the person you love and care about is never an easy task, but it comes at a time when reality must be faced.
This means building up the courage to follow through with the breakup.
Unfortunately, many breakups don’t end on a good note.
Usually, there’s animosity and resentment between the couple.
And depending on the nature of the relationship, sometimes this unfortunate ending is unavoidable.
When possible, it’s better to end the relationship as friends instead of enemies.
Today, I will provide you with five tips for ending a relationship peacefully.
Let’s get started…
TIP 1: Prepare Your Partner
One of the things that can confuse a person is when a breakup seems to come “out of nowhere.”
If you are seeing the demise of the relationship, it is only fair to let your partner know that he or she should too.
You can ask leading questions like “do you see this relationship going anywhere?”
You can also point out that other people find your significant other attractive so they start to think that there might be other fish in the sea.
This approach is important because it reminds your partner that he or she is still sexy.
It's important to boost their self-esteem and confidence during this process.
TIP 2: Choose the Venue
There are some places NOT to break up at. For instance, never call it quits when one of you is driving.
This can be disastrous!
Instead, choose the location of your breakup carefully.
Here are some thoughts:
If your partner is prone to dramatics such as crying or temper tantrums, breaking up in a public place such as a restaurant can be the best bet.
This is because the public nature of a restaurant or other such places can temper their outburst. If it doesn’t, you are free to walk out and leave him or her to be embarrassed alone.
If you break up with your partner at your place, he or she may stay around and try to talk you out of it. You’d be trapped because it’s not easy to leave your own home.
One of the advantages of their place is that you can break up and walk away.
But, if you still care about your partner, consider that everything about their home will remind them of the relationship breakup after that.
So, if they are sentimental, this can cause them pain in the long run, because the memory of the breakup in their home will be anchored in their mind forever.
TIP 3: Let Your Mate Know the Reason for The Breakup
Be specific about the reason you want to break up because it’s not fair to give a vague answer.
If you aren’t honest about the reasons, your significant other consciously may not even be aware of them.
That’s why communication is one of the keys to a successful relationship.
Never assume your mate is aware of all the challenges that are wreaking havoc.
If they have problems, they need to know because it can affect later relationships and they’ll never know it.
At the same time, if you are just looking for more freedom, let your mate know it’s not about them.
If you’re in a relationship with a decent and rational person, he or she will respect you for being honest.
This honesty though painful could go a long way toward remaining friends after the breakup.
TIP 4: Exchange Property and Settle Financial Matters
It signals a complete breakup of the relationship when you settle financial issues and give each other’s belongings back.
This prevents your ex from making up excuses to stop by unannounced asking for their personal items or money for unpaid bills.
If there are bills in both your names, if possible, pay the full balance or make payment arrangements with your ex (put the agreement in writing), and/or remove your name from the debt or utility.
After the breakup, it’s important to spend time apart to prevent mixed emotions, which could land you right back into the relationship you just got out of.
TIP 5: Ask for A Complete Break
Request that your ex does not contact you for at least a month. Let him or her know you rather not receive any type of communication whether that be by phone calls, text, email, etc.
Tell your ex that it is better to have a real separation before any attempt at being “just friends.”
If you begin to second quest your decision, you may give in to your emotions and go running back.
The best way to combat those feelings is to think about why you ended the relationship in the first place.
And the best thing to do is ask for some space after the breakup so you can move forward using logic and not emotions, which could cause you to make bad decisions.
You just learned 5 Tips For Ending A Relationship Peacefully!
There’s nothing easy about breaking up with the person you’ve been in a relationship with for a while.
Usually, emotions run high, and you may second-guess your decision to end the union.
Always keep in mind that there’s a reason you came to the conclusion of breaking up in the first place.
This could help you backpedal and prevent you from getting right back into the relationship.
These tips are meant to help you make your breakup as painless and peaceful as possible, while remaining friends with your ex.
Of course, this isn’t always feasible depending on the nature of the relationship.
If you’ve been thinking about breaking up with your mate, then apply these tips during the process for a smooth exit from your relationship.
There’s no reason to part as enemies unless you were mistreated.